Tobias Wolff – This Boy’s Life

Tobias Wolff - This Boy's Life

This Boy’s Life is a memoir written by short-story writer Tobias Wolff. I stumbled upon a recommendation for the book somewhere, though I can’t recall the precise source, and was intrigued enough to purchase it.

A boy in the late 1950s United States lives alone with his mother after her divorce. They frequently move from place to place, with his mother consistently drawn to problematic men. Then, after settling in a boarding house at the edge of poverty, she meets Dwight. After moving in with Dwight, Jack discovers that Dwight epitomizes the toxic men to whom his mother is inexplicably attracted. He is a manipulative, deceitful, downright stupid, and self-serving alcoholic who despises Jack. Dwight exploits the boy, forcing him to work and stealing his hard-earned money. Despite being shaped by this harsh environment, Jack retains a moral compass and a sense of decency.

Tobias Wolff
Tobias Wolff


Even when not burdened by Dwight’s demands, Jack struggles. One afternoon, he gambles away the $100 he had painstakingly saved. He also manages to get himself expelled from school, further complicating his tumultuous youth.

Eventually, several pivotal events unfold. Jack’s father appears and helps extract him from Dwight’s toxic influence. Jack is admitted to a boarding school and the narrative gains speed. During his final year, he is expelled and subsequently decides to join the army.

This coming-of-age story resembles Charles Bukowski’s semi-autobiographical “Ham on Rye,” though it doesn’t quite reach the same literary depth. The narrative echoes themes from other contemporary novels about fractured families, such as John Green’s “Looking for Alaska,” Barbara Kingsolver’s “Demon Copperhead,” and Gabrielle Zevin’s “Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow.”

The book was adapted into a 1993 film starring Leonardo DiCaprio and Robert De Niro as Dwight. Though I haven’t seen the movie, De Niro’s reputation for portraying intense, complex characters suggests a compelling interpretation of the villainous Dwight.

I have never seen this before in a Wikipedia entry:

Home media
This Boy’s Life was released on VHS September 1, 1993; LaserDisc in November 1993;[12] and on DVD May 13, 2003.[13]


Surprising Facts from ‘Uncommon Knowledge’ by The Economist

Uncommon Knowledge published by The Economist, edited by Tom Standage

I wrote earlier that I love rare facts. Uncommon Knowledge is published by The Economist, edited by Tom Standage, editor by The Economist.

The book consists of short essays of no more than two pages, each zooming in on an unexpected fact. The essays are well written and mostly indeed surprising. For example:

Swaziland is actually called Eswatini; it was renamed in 2018 (the name is eSwatini according to the book, but it is generally spelled Eswatini today).

Carrots are white. Orange carrots originate from the Dutch town of Hoorn and may have been grown out of a gesture of support for William of Orange.

Why most refugees do not live in camps: because camps are miserable places. Even when aid is more accessible in camps, refugees prefer an uncertain life in cities because they have more opportunities to do things. Conclusion by The Economist: let refugees out of camps; let them work.

China loans pandas to other countries as a political tool.

Why do people eat more chicken nowadays? It is cheaper, and breading them is so efficient. Chickens are so big nowadays that they can’t get on top of each other anymore to mate. I also talked about this after reading Jonathan Foer’s book Eating Animals (Dieren eten). (Yes, I eat vegetarian.)

Expensive weddings yield higher chances of divorce.

Import tariffs do more harm to the economy than good. (The book was written during Trump’s first presidency).
In 2018, the WHO published a list of deadly viruses, including the placeholder’ Disease X’, an undetermined disease that could cause an international epidemic.

The US has, next to Brazil, one of the highest deaths caused by firearms per capita in the world. Two-thirds of these deaths in the US are suicides. So, I would say you could very well conclude that the NRA in the US is a lobby organization promoting suicides. You never hear a pro-life organization about these approximately 26000 deaths per year.

Islamic zina laws inhibit illicit sexual relationships. This often applies to the victim of rape as well. That is a horror even worsened by the primitive punishments of whipping and stoning. A complete nightmare for women.

Turkey puts most journalists in prison of all countries in the world. (And is still contemplating the introduction of zina laws).

An interesting book that gives a different view on many topics.

Sayaka Murata in Wired

I read this interesting article in Wired about Sayaka Murata, author of, amongst ithers, ‘Convenience Store Woman’ (Buurtsupermens in Dutch) and ‘Earthlings’. Fascinating writer. Brilliant.

Murata critically examines societal norms, around work, conformity, and marginalization in Japanese society. ‘Convenience Store Woman’ and ‘Earthlings’ explore characters who struggle to fit into conventional social expectations, offering dark, satirical perspectives on identity and alienation.

Figuranten – Arnon Grunberg

Ik vond een tijdje geleden al Figuranten van Arnon Grunberg, op Terschelling bij de leuke tweedehands boekwinkel De Boekenboer op Terschelling.

De eigenaresse is zelf een schrijfster, lees ik in het krantje uit 2022 dat is uitgegeven ter ere van het 25 jarig bestaan van De Boekenboer. Ze is de dochter van de oorspronkelijke oprichter van de tweedehands boekwinkel en ze schrijft lokale detectives.

Ik lees dat ze Kluun een slechte schrijver vindt. Goed zo.

Leuk om Figuranten een keer te herlezen, dacht ik, maar het bleek dat ik het nog nooit had gelezen (of ik moet wel lijden aan zeer zwaar geheugenverlies).

Figuranten is een krankzinnig leuk boek, bijna net zo goed als De Joodse Messias. Drie adolescenten, Broccoli, Ewald en Elvira, proberen hun grootste plannen te realiseren in het Amsterdam van de jaren negentig. Maar er komt natuurlijk geen drol van terecht. Ewald kiest voor nachtmerrie van elke adolescent: hij wordt een geldwolf.

Ik ga het verhaal hier niet natuurlijk niet hervertellen. Het eindigt een beetje in mineur. Zo voel ik het in ieder geval. Zo’n boek waarbij het aan het eind toch allemaal mis gaat. Maar daar is dan weer helemaal niks mis mee.

Earthlings – Sayaka Murata

Earthlings by Sayaka Murata is a wonderfully weird book. Sayaka Murata wrote Convenience Store Woman, which I wrote about a few days ago. Earthlings is another book about people who can not or do not want to fit in.

Natsuki, about ten years old, has declared herself a fairy. Her cuddly Pyuut is from the magic police from another planet and has given Natsuki hate magic. Cousin Yuu is her lover. He is a space creature abandoned by a spaceship in the mountains. They fall in love and “marry” as kids can.

At home, Natsuki is insecure; she is mentally and somewhat physically abused. She wants to belong to “the Factory,” where people produce new people. Therefore, she blames herself for her problems and takes tutoring, but then is mistreated again by the teacher. To protect herself, she has built her magic world. Natsuki grows up in a protected cocoon, controlled by her family.

To escape the pressures of the Factory, she marries a man who, like her, wants to escape society. They have a marriage of convenience to deceive the outside world. They live in this construction for some time, but in the end, their secret is discovered by the people of the Factory – her mother and sister, and they are forced to choose a normal life.

The story degenerates into a gruesome hallucination of Natsuki, her husband, and her cousin Yuu. Earthlings is a grim and socially critical book, written at once humorously and strangely lighthearted.

Before Your Memory Fades – Toshikazu Kawaguchi

I’m currently into Japanese novels (Convenience Store Woman, The Key, Days At The Moorisaki Bookshop and others). Here’s another one: Before Your Memory Fades by Toshikazu Kawaguchi.

In a small coffee house in Hakodate, guests can choose to sit at a specific table, usually occupied by a ghost – a man in a suit reading the newspaper all day – and travel through time.

One lady travels back to visit her mother, who left her behind at a young age. A comedian who won a significant comedy award goes back in time to tell his deceased wife the great news about his prize.
These are heartbreaking but, at the same time, lighthearted stories. This is one of those great books you don’t come across often.

Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow – Gabrielle Zevin

After immensely enjoying The Storied Life of A. J. Fikry, I picked up a copy of another book of Gabrielle Zevin, Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow.

Two nerds, Sam and Sadie, meet each other during their free childhood when Sam is in the hospital for a long time with a broken foot. Sadie visits him regularly. After he is discharged, they lose sight of each other again.

When they study, they meet again. Both are creative and fond of games. They decide to build a game. Marx, a friend, joins them in the role of producer.

The game becomes a huge success. They only needed the engine of an obscure friend of Sadie’s, Dov. He turns out to be an oppressive character, leading Sam into a deep depression, which strains the relationship between Sadie and Sam. The game’s sequel also becomes a success. They have since set up a company dedicated to building games. They move from Boston to LA. The relationship between Sam and Sadie remains platonic, going up and down in waves.

The company builds a game with a virtual world in which Sam and Sadie can express their free morals. For example, they create a world where same-sex marriage is not only accepted but celebrated. Sam plays the Mayor of this world. This controversial world leads to furious reactions in the real world from conservative groups who see it as an attack on traditional values. This gets out of hand, and one day, the company is raided, and Marx is shot.

The story devolves into a surreal, dreamlike narrative of how Marx lies in his hospital bed, trying to survive. Beautiful style reminiscent of Johnny Got His Gun, the intensely disturbing story about a soldier who wakes up in the hospital and finds that he has lost his sight and his arms and legs. The story about Marx is less disconcerting but beautifully written. The whole experience brings Sam and Sadie back together.

Not as weird as Fikry, yet equally enjoyable.

The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry – Gabrielle Zevin

Stumbled upon at Broese in Utrecht (very nice bookshop, has a small section Dutch authors in translation; nice gift for friends from abroad).

A.J. Fikry is a lonely 40-year-old bookseller. He runs a bookstore on Alice Island. His wife has recently passed away, and he is struggling to find direction in his life. When an expensive first edition of an early Tamerlane is stolen from his home/shop, and shortly thereafter, a child is found abandoned in his store, his life changes. He adopts the baby, Maya. He befriends Amelie, the representative of a publishing house. They hesitate to live together, afraid of adjusting to another person. Acquaintances and family urge both to start a normal family, something neither of them feels like doing.

(In that sense, a funny similarity to Earthlings, in which an aversion to conventions is also a theme. It is probably not a coincidence since it is yours truly who ultimately selected these books).

A.J. marries Amelia. Maya becomes a writer.

He is delighted to have produced such a fantastic nerd.

Deliciously wacky book.

just found out that the book has a movie adaptation.

Kindle annotations

I read a lot on my Kindle and like to make highlights and notes while reading. You can read your annotations at https://read.amazon.com. However, Amazon only synchronizes the annotations for the books you have purchased through Amazon. I am unsure whether that is because of copyright issues or because Amazon does not want to help you with books purchased elsewhere. Both are equally probable. But annoying it is. (Even more so because I think Amazon is an unsympathetic company, and I prefer to use their offerings as little as possible. For stories about Amazon practices, read Cory Doctorow’s story, but a quick search on the internet will surface many more typical monopolist practices.)

Fortunately, the annotations are stored locally on the Kindle in a file called My Clippings.txt. When you connect the Kindle to your computer, you can browse the file structure on the Kindle and find this file.

I created a smallPython program to read this file’s somewhat cryptic format and convert it to a human-readable format. You can find it in a Gitlab repository here. The program currently requires some computer and Python literacy. When time allows, I will make it more user-friendly.

Raymond Carver’s wrinkle

I am rereading Raymond Carver‘s short stories. Nothing happens in these stories, nothing in terms of real-life events—suggestions of events only. A man and a woman are lying in bed. Nothing happens. Only the woman can not sleep. We follow her restlessness. A postman welcomes a new family in town. He observes them while they settle and leave town again.

There is no twist at the end of the stories—just a little wrinkle, at best.